well i'm here to tell you, little by little, it does get easier. but you definitely have to work at it. schedule date nights. have a glass of wine to relax. use a ton of water-based lube. and patience...from both you and your partner. it does get easier but now without a little effort.
my little guy just turned 9 months and i am just now getting to the point where i semi-enjoy it. i cried, stressed, just so worried things would never get easier. but i'm here to tell you they do.
oh, and want to end date night with a little sexy time. check this out.